This will be "old news" to most people, but I never read the book "Fifty Shades of Grey" so decided to see the movie since nudity does not offend me (lots of bare buttocks and boob exposure). I found the movie SLOW AND BORING. There was hardly any plot. I did not think the male lead was attractive or presented a good impersonation of a rich and powerful business man (yes, I know this is a matter of personal taste). I found it appalling that the film was marketed as a romantic story to younger audiences/women and found it degrading to women. There is no romance or love if a man beats you hurtfully in different ways. I suppose men who like to beat women would find this film exciting.

I heard that the books were badly written. Can't believe the success of both the book and the movie. Amazing!

You won't believe but I've watched this movie "masterpiece" yesterday and was going to create the same topic here So, hello there, soul friend))

Totally agree with you! I had the same feeling while watching: slow!!!! very slow!!! and boring as result. if it was not so slow, it would not be so boring probably, but who knows... the plot it very simple, so there was no need to make a 2-hour movie from that! Plus, they say it was just the first part! Two more books are waiting )

Glad to see somebody agrees with me . My friends, who have read all three books, tell me that in the end she changes him. Well, it seems to me that he is so psychologically damaged that even with multiple sessions with a professional would not result in a positive result, let alone a naive schoolgirl, whose mental health is also doubtful. Perhaps curiosity prompted the success of this book, like it did mine. I knew it was not my thing (so had no desire to read the book), but saw the movie due to curiosity...my expectation was correct!!!
BORING AND DEGRADING TO WOMEN!!!

My friends and I went out to dinner Saturday night and one of the many things we discussed was the Fifty Shades movie. One of my friends shared with me that the general consensus in the BDSM community is that Fifty Shades is nothing like how it is in real life. They feel the movie makes them look bad and is degrading to women.

I read the first book, but not the next two in the trilogy. So my opinion is based on incomplete information. But from my perspective the books and movie are not for everyone, but clearly they are for a lot of people. Nobody is forcing anyone to buy the books or movie tickets. Are all the women devouring these books feeling degraded or possibly aroused?

Curious and aroused obviously! Maybe more couples/men should try those techniques !!!

Maybe. I just went out and bought some fuzzy handcuffs and a cattle prod.

LOL...let us know how that works out!!!

cattle prod

the fuzzy cuffs an electric prod work both ways Chris

cattle prod


i noticed that a lot of older women who felt that sexually explicit material is off limits for them could read the fifty shades franchise with a sort of social license to indulge so to speak.

On a serious note what do you guys think about us having a forum for discussing erotica?

Exactly. But... maybe their point was something like.. "no one is impossible to change unless he wants to change himself". He's just felt in love with this naive schoolgirl, and he is ready to do everything she tells. Lol. So, it's not about a professional psychological help (I suppose, he did not want to change when he visited that doctor or whoever he was). Well, just a theory Girls love such stories: a young, handsome millionaire falls in love with them, ordinary and naive ladies, and what is more! - he changes thanks to them! Wow! (sarcasm)

P.S. I haven't read all those three books, but I predicted the end like this after watching the movie. Happy end, he changes for her, everyone is happy, blah-blah-blah

I certainly have no objections quite the contrary but I'm probably not likely to post much in it myself, although I could be wrong.

I suppose the only way to find out is to give it a whirl.

Not sure erotica means the same thing to men and women. Not sure it can be discussed in the same space. I think some people (mostly men) would say raw and vulgar things and that is not the way I think of erotica. For me it's mostly connected to feelings of love or, at least, caring. I think I would probably not participate.

Use this discussion as an example. I voiced a simple critique of a movie, and in a few paragraphs the discussion went to "cattle prodding" and "tasering". Erotica is not necessarily porn. Just my opinion, of course.

...and a very helpful opinion it is.

I think you have a point there

The taser quip was well out of line and I am ashamed that my sense of humour betrayed my complete lack of sensitivity

We discussed fifty shades (the book) in a thread a while back and as I recall it was noticed that the writing was so poor none of us were that into it, and some of us simply could not read it.

hahahaha thanks for that image which I now cannot get rid of

I've not seen the movie, and have no desire to do so since being beaten and sodomised for a man's pleasure doesn't titillate me in the slightest. I've not read the books either, apart from scanning a couple of pages of a copy I saw in a house I was cleaning once. I used to work for a cleaning company and the folks in this house I cleaned each week bought the books. After 2 pages of "oh my" I got bored and went back to my hoover and duster.

Every time this subject comes up (no pun intended) everyone seems to agree that the books were terribly written. This just goes to show that we're wasting our time worrying too much about the finer grammatical points of our work.