Ayemea: Well, you communicated that really well!!!!

Sometimes peoples', unsmiling faces destroy our confidence to communicate. This happens with me frequently. But sometimes, I have found that such, unsmiling, people are just worried....and they are the very ones who need communication.

You might find it easier on here....where you can't see peoples' faces.

I certainly do find it easier......keep it touch, because, it is important to communicate, and sometimes, the quiet ones are the ones with the most to offer.

Not like me......the blabberer!!!

Penelope said:

You might find it easier on here....where you can't see peoples' faces.
I certainly do find it easier......keep it touch, because, it is important to communicate, and sometimes, the quiet ones are the ones with the most to offer.

I just wanted to say that I am in total agreement with Penelope here and am glad that Penelope already put it into words so I can just second her comments!

Woweee.....have I said something right???

Tarav...you promise you are not playing at 'Let's all be polite to one another'?

Love Pen...xxx

LOL, Penelope! Seriously, I am a gregarious extrovert. We extroverts can really dominate conversations if we're not careful. I am always vigilant about being a committed listener. The quiet ones are often processing differently than me. I am processing aloud as I speak. They are thinking about it, then speaking. I don't think either way is better. I just think that we need to be aware of different communication modes. As you alluded to, those quiet ones have important things to say also. We may just have to wait a little while and also be quiet long enough to benefit from their contributions. Participating in forums, especially here at BookTalk, is a good way to work on communication skills. Wait time is built-in to written communication and like you said, Penelope, bad facial expressions and body language are invisible so it is a non-threatening place for people who struggle with communicating.

Tarav:

I am a gregarious extrovert.

I talk a lot too!!!!

They are thinking about it, then speaking.

It is a typically female thing....but I don't know what I think until I've 'said it'......which is probably why I am so passionate about language....phonetics....its history and origins.

To sum up.....'I talk, therefore I am'.....Oh...boohoo....I don't want to be like this.....

Coffee, please check out our LINKS page at http://www.booktalk.org/links.php

Scroll down to the "Audio Books & eBooks" section and visit some of those sites. There are lots of free audio books you can download. I agree that audio books are far too expensive so I was pretty excited when I discovered all the free audio books available.

Penelope wrote:Ayemea: Well, you communicated that really well!!!!

thanks for that comment. I think I'm not that bad when it comes to communication through writing. I just have my problems with talking.

You might find it easier on here....where you can't see peoples' faces.

Well, the faces and expressions of people aren't the main problem for me. There are just a few people, where that point is a problem for me. I just don't talk much in general, no matter which person it is. I have just one good friend with whom I can talk a bit more than usual, but it's still not very much compared to other people.
Well, can't be helped. I could try to change it, but that would mean to put in some effort and I'm a really lazy person.

Ayemea:

There are many ways to communicate....It is not all about talking!!!

Thank goodness!!!

Pictures ??? Music???

People are much more perceptive than you might, at first, think, I have found.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6voJjexENok

Penelope wrote: Pictures ??? Music???

People are much more perceptive than you might, at first, think, I have found.

Well, that's true. I also like to paint, but I don't think you could use that pictures for communication. It's just that they don't have anything to do with how I feel etc.

Could you 'paint' how you feel?

I used to sing.....and I could sing how I felt much more easily than I could express by talking.

Now I cannot sing anymore....so I type how I feel on this keyboard.