What would you change?

Penelope · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 9:35 am Post subject:

Ayemea: Well, you communicated that really well!!!!

Sometimes peoples', unsmiling faces destroy our confidence to communicate. This happens with me frequently. But sometimes, I have found that such, unsmiling, people are just worried....and they are the very ones who need communication.

You might find it easier on here....where you can't see peoples' faces.

I certainly do find it easier......keep it touch, because, it is important to communicate, and sometimes, the quiet ones are the ones with the most to offer.

Not like me......the blabberer!!! Sad

tarav · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:21 am Post subject:

Penelope said:

Penelope · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:31 am Post subject:

Woweee.....have I said something right???

Tarav...you promise you are not playing at 'Let's all be polite to one another'?

Love Pen...xxx

tarav · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 11:48 am Post subject:

LOL, Penelope! Seriously, I am a gregarious extrovert. We extroverts can really dominate conversations if we're not careful. I am always vigilant about being a committed listener. The quiet ones are often processing differently than me. I am processing aloud as I speak. They are thinking about it, then speaking. I don't think either way is better. I just think that we need to be aware of different communication modes. As you alluded to, those quiet ones have important things to say also. We may just have to wait a little while and also be quiet long enough to benefit from their contributions. Participating in forums, especially here at BookTalk, is a good way to work on communication skills. Wait time is built-in to written communication and like you said, Penelope, bad facial expressions and body language are invisible so it is a non-threatening place for people who struggle with communicating.

Penelope · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 12:05 pm Post subject:

Tarav:

Chris OConnor · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 12:44 pm Post subject:

Coffee, please check out our LINKS page at http://www.booktalk.org/links.php

Scroll down to the "Audio Books & eBooks" section and visit some of those sites. There are lots of free audio books you can download. I agree that audio books are far too expensive so I was pretty excited when I discovered all the free audio books available.

ayemea · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:08 pm Post subject:

Penelope · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:24 pm Post subject:

Ayemea:

There are many ways to communicate....It is not all about talking!!!

Thank goodness!!!

Pictures ??? Music???

People are much more perceptive than you might, at first, think, I have found.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6voJjexENok

ayemea · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:30 pm Post subject:

Penelope · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:37 pm Post subject:

Could you 'paint' how you feel?

I used to sing.....and I could sing how I felt much more easily than I could express by talking.

Now I cannot sing anymore....so I type how I feel on this keyboard. Wink

Ophelia · Posted: Tue Jul 22, 2008 2:48 pm Post subject:

i'll jump in and say I often find the internet easier myself.
I'm not shy, but I find that the people who are usually keen on socializing are extroverts, who speak at a faster rate than i do and have a knack of covering the topics THEY are interested in, whilst smiling charmingly at you all the time (so it's difficult to be cross with them).
i go along with their choice of topic usually, because honestly diverting the flow, and especially keeping it diverted would require so much effort and energy from me.
So at the end of the conversation, the extrovert typically leaves, having covered all the topics that matter to him, and thinks he has had a really nice time.
On a discussion forum I get a better chance, and I can also develop if i'm so enclined.


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