Purely preposterous poppycock

Mr. Pessimistic · Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 4:06 pm Post subject:

Rose. Just let it go. Now this is bordering on harrassment.

Mr. P.

irishrosem · Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:15 pm Post subject:

Mr. Pessimistic · Posted: Thu Jan 17, 2008 6:25 pm Post subject:

Theomanic · Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 9:57 am Post subject:

Uh... *cough* Was this supposed to be a private message? Maybe it should be? Sorry to intrude but... I kind of feel like I'm listening to my parents argue through the floor. Maybe not a good impression for new people? Just thought I'd mention...

I'm leaving now. *puts on earmuffs*

Mr. Pessimistic · Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 11:38 am Post subject:

irishrosem · Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 11:50 am Post subject:

For the record, this thread was an attempt to carry-over from another public thread. I had asked that Mr. P. and I take this spat to a thread devoted specifically to this bickering so others wouldn’t be distracted by it, hence the title of the thread. I didn’t want to further divert the Huckabee discussion, which had been revived at the time.

Theo, I don’t choose to speak with Mr. P. on PM because he uses profanity there to which I won’t subject myself.

Mr. Pessimistic · Posted: Fri Jan 18, 2008 12:02 pm Post subject:

Chris OConnor · Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 2:44 am Post subject:

I see these types of discussions so much on forums. Each person analyzes the other persons every word. Sometimes they analyze them by actually defining the parts of speech and how the grammar could or should have been used more effectively. In the end nothing positive comes out of it and feelings are hurt and damage is done to what previously was a friendship.

I suggest the whole topic be dropped right away. Neither party needs to come back and say, "But I have been trying to drop it..." Plenty of people have now read the discussion and are well aware of what has transpired. But in the end carrying on any further is just robbing both of you of precious minutes of your lives. And time matters. Life is short. I've engaged in plenty of these back-and-forth go nowhere arguments and they almost always end on a bad note. I've learned (or have tried to learn) to just walk away or ignore the bait dangling out in front of me. I am suggesting you both do the same thing.

But if you want to continue you are welcome to do so. This is my opinion and not an effort to "lay down the law."

irishrosem · Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 3:23 am Post subject:

Chris, I think it has been dropped on both parts. But, if this were still heated I think you did a nice job of commenting to diffuse the situation, without judging the argument itself. I’m not one that thinks bickering like this needs to be avoided at all cost, particularly if those participating don’t do so regularly, without contributing elsewhere. And I submit, without hesitation, that Mr.P. and I both contribute many non-bickering posts to this site. I’m also really, really not one to take such spats personally as they are absolutely inconsequential, so they don’t tend to affect whatever “internet relationship” I’ve built with my co-bickerer.

But if I’m a third party, I’m also one that doesn’t enjoy watching them going on either. In most cases, it’s easy enough to ignore it when it happens here because the thread has usually deteriorated to the point that only those spatting are following it. In this case, the original subject of the thread had been re-sparked and the spat, I think, interfered. Now, it wasn’t a terribly important thread, in my opinion, to begin with. But, I’m wondering, if it’s not your policy to silence such bickering at its outset as you note here, maybe you really may want to consider a “Cat Fight” or a “Spats” forum. That way such arguments can easily be transferred there, and those who just don’t want to see it can ignore the forum altogether. Just a suggestion.

jales4 · Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 1:10 pm Post subject:

Niall001 · Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 4:26 pm Post subject:

Ideally, we'd do exactly that Jan but that doesn't seem to work. Rather than a sub-forum, I figure we can use this appropriately named thread for any further spats.

If something is turning into a spat, someone (anyone) should direct those involved to this thread if they want to continue the board drama.

MadArchitect · Posted: Sat Jan 19, 2008 7:16 pm Post subject:

Alternatively, maybe we can think of a way to handle such altercations, as a forum, that will cut them short. Some sort of informal arbitration, perhaps?


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